“Every guy is a bad boy until he decides to be a good man.”- msichanawanairobi
Now, I must admit, my nineteen year old self was quite attracted to the whole bad boy thing. Yes… It’s past tense because I’m over it now. However, there are a few sweet girls walking this earth believing in myths that will drive them into frustrating relationships until they are thirty . So, I have decided to enlighten all you hopeless romantics out there just so that you can make your mistakes with some knowledge. (Am I not the nicest?) So… Listen up.
Myth #1: YOU CAN CHANGE HIM
A lot of us women have a Messiah complex… you see him and talk to him and hang out with him and all of a sudden.. You have come to “seek and save that which was lost” and maybe you were just going to buy gum. First of all, you are not Jesus. Secondly, no one can change anyone and anyone who fools you into thinking you have “changed” them is just a good actor.
Truth#1: THE BAD BOY CHOOSES WHEN TO CHANGE
There’s good news, he can change. Bad news is, he changes on his own terms,in his own time and for someone he deems to be worth changing for. If his change does not happen with you. Deal with it and get over it.
Myth#2: HE LOVES ME BUT HE’S AFRAID TO SHOW IT
I don’t know when women started to believe that all a bad boy is is a man who can love who’s only problem is “commitment”. I mean really, you think he’s faking????!!! As I was informed by a former bad boy , “He doesn’t love you now and he won’t love you any time soon. So don’t waste your time.”
Truth# 2: BAD BOYS DON’T LOVE
Yes. Bad boys do not fall in love or love. A bad boy in love is no bad boy at all. Love changes things. Trust me I have seen it happen. So, if you haven’t yet inferred what I am saying let me give it to you straight: If he’s with you, or he’s leaving you in limbo and he’s up to his old tricks…? Uh.. He don’t love you, boo boo.
Myth #3: EVEN THOUGH HE’S A BAD BOY, IT’S JUST ME HE’S WITH
Okay, now if you have ever believed this: pinch yourself because you live in wonderland. Bad boys are like the spiritual descendants of all polygamists. If bad boys have a secret society, they probably have Solomon as their pioneer and swear oaths to never be with just one woman at a time.
Truth #3: THE BAD BOY IS A MULTI-TASKER
Now, he’s probably the only kind of male human who can do this and get away with it. He’ll text one while he’s on date with the another, drop her off and meet a new one on the way back. And so it goes. So if you are insistent on being with him, you must not take it personally that you’re not the only bean in his githeri. In fact think of it this way, his githeri , is bean stew and you are just one of many.
So, now that I have told you the truth may it set you free from all the nonsense those soap operas and exaggerated movies taught you. However, if you still want the “thrill” of the bad boy, go ahead. If you happen to be the girl he chooses to change for, lucky you. If not, remember, it’s nothing personal. It’s just the business of being a bad boy. Or is it?